Are you considering having your aging parent move in with you? Each family is unique, and it’s possible that the arrangement could work well. It’s also possible that it could be stressful and cause conflict in the family.
There are many factors to consider when moving a parent in, and being honest and upfront about them can help you and others in the home make the right decision. And, if you do choose to move forward with the living arrangements, remember that you are not alone. There are resources available to ease some of the burden, such as respite care and home care services.
Below are few of the most important questions to ask before moving an aging parent into your household.
What type of care will be needed?
What is the mental and physical health of your loved one? Does he or she have a mental illness? A physical ailment? Older adults in good health are much easier to take in. They adapt well to the environment and may even be able to help out with childcare, cooking and cleaning.
On the other hand, your loved one could need a lot of care to manage an illness. Will you be able to provide around-the-clock care if the condition progresses? If so, assisted living may be a better option.
What are you in a position to provide?
There are many reasons why adult children take in their parents. They may feel obligated or they may want to prevent placing their loved one in assisted living. However, you must be honest about what you can realistically provide, otherwise the situation won’t work for anyone. Do you have children? Do you work? Are you prepared to deliver the level of care your loved one needs? No two households are the same, so be truthful with yourself and what you can take on.
What type of relationship do you have?
Do you think that you can live in the same house as your loved one? Always consider the quality of life for you and your parent. Many families are able to live together peacefully and move past conflict, but there are some that cannot. You want this experience to strengthen the family bond and not move you further apart.
Is your home safe and secure?
Chances are, you’ll have to modify some parts in your home to make it safe for your aging parent. If your loved one needs a costly renovation, moving them in might not be the best decision. However, if your parent is mostly independent and you have the appropriate setup (i.e., downstairs bedroom with attached bathroom), living together may make sense.
How do other family members in the home feel?
Finally, discuss your plans with everyone else in the household. How do they feel about the arrangement? Living together in a multigenerational home can be a rewarding experience. Children can learn about their heritage and bond with their grandparents. But, as we know, things can also go the other way. Everyone should be on board with living together.
If you do choose to move Mom or Dad into your home, be sure to review the resources you have available. Family Private Care offers respite and home care services, allowing you to take breaks when you need them and receive assistance with skilled nursing care, personal care and more. Call us today to learn more.